Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Sleeping single… a disgrace or just more space?

When you stop and think about it sleeping is really just a time to rest. It’s essential for good physical and mental health, and should not be neglected. Still there are many people who don’t manage to get a good night’s sleep each day. There are of course many reasons why this happens, but I’m just going to tackle the issue many couples have.

Women like to have a man at their side during the night. It’s a warm and secure feeling which probably provides a deep and more comfortable night’s sleep.
Men on the other hand actually have disturbed sleep when there’s someone else in the bed. The size of bed is irrelevant. It’s also irrelevant whether or not they’ve had sex before. The exact reason for this isn’t quite clear, but most men tend to sleep lightly when there’s a woman next to them.

Some studies have suggested that it could be an instinctive thing, kind of like the man watches over his woman at night. Whatever… 

So what, does this mean men and women should sleep in separate beds? Well 23% of American couples apparently do that. Perhaps that isn’t quite the best solution though. When it comes to sleeping a couple should be clear about what allows them to get a good rest and what disturbs them at night. 

Sleep is a selfish part of life. It’s about waking up refreshed and being ready for a new day, so cut the man some slack and avoid the usual “why are you giving me your back?” question, because it’s nothing personal, he just wants to get some sleep, that's the reason why.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Blackjack or bye Jack?

So when is it time to stop playing games? When does a man finally decide he’s had enough?

Well, obviously some men are more accepting than others. Why? Perhaps because they feel they have to be that way. Ironically those guys will always end up on the bottom of a women’s “to do” list. It’s only common sense, if something’s right there at your feet 24 7 you’ll kick it away because you know it will come back.

Girls have to always play their game, they wouldn’t ever want to appear too available or easy. So as soon as something begins to develop the game is on. While many men fear this challenge, others simply live for it. Yes, that’s how different men could be. Needless to say a man who normally has trouble getting women’s attention is going to hang on much longer. In most instances it’s the female who dominates this game, but certainly not always. Some men also play their game, and I’ll tell you it’s quite an encounter.

Guys could make it seem as though they’re totally infatuated with a girl when all they’re really after is just another conquest, perhaps something to enhance their ego. Sex is a man’s ultimate achievement, so it’s pretty simple, he gets her into bed and he wins. Therefore what happens from that moment on is kind of irrelevant.

So why do many girls still insist on playing their game? What’s a guy supposed to think at this point? Personally I believe everyone has their limits, and therefore if a girl keeps pushing it chances are he will lose interest.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

"No strings attached" Is it a contemporary approach or simply an outrage?

Although I’m pretty sure it was a man who actually came up with that term, more and more women these days are exploring the reality of a no strings attached lifestyle. It might be a fantasy for many women, for others it could be a way of moving on after a serious relationship. Some women these days are simply too caught up with their career to get involved. 

I believe however, that the main reason women opt for this routine is because they fear the emotional distress a relationship could put them through. It could be due to a bitter experience or perhaps that of a close friend or family member. All very valid reasons in my opinion.

With men it’s a slightly different situation. The major benefit of a one night stand is that the responsibility ends right there. It literally fades away as the sun rises. Men are also exposed to sexual variety this way. Consider this, why would a man who lives in a city like New York with so many single people and a disproportionate number of them women want to limit himself to just the one? 

That’s exactly what a man would say to himself if he’s in a position to date different women on a regular basis. Obviously there are exceptions, and yes some men just want to avoid getting emotionally involved.

So is there really anything immoral about people living this way? I guess that’s subjective. Myself, I believe everyone should live by their own rules, and not those imposed by society.