There's no question that relationships these days have somewhat evolved, but have they become easier, more interesting, or simply complicated?
People have different views on this, but when a couple is geographically separated there are few directions the relationship can go. It either builds up strength or completely collapses. Time is normally what determines the faith of any relationship. However I believe it is completely wrong for people to say that once they’re distant from their significant other things get out of control. We have control on every decision we take and every move we make. So why blame it on the ocean?
Perhaps for some it becomes a convenient excuse without really having to reveal their true motive. Distance is not always easy to deal with but certainly not impossible. If a couple is individually in doubt then more often than not it will just be a memory by sunset. Whereas a proper understanding of what each person involved is truly looking for can make it through the roughest seas.
I think the chance to pass the test of separation could only that couples whose was love passed the test of time. Because in modern world everyday something happenes and in this ocean life we could forget something really important. I agree with you that we have control on every decision we take, but life take an unexpected turn sometimes...
ReplyDeleteLeyla Akavova
The good news about long distance releationships now is that communication is so much easier. E-mail, web phone calls, regular calls are within reach of almost everyone. (Though calls for soldiers aren't free.)
ReplyDeleteThe above isn't a political statement, but it came up when I was remembering one of my sons being overseas. Waiting for an e-mail was nothing compared to the families and sweethearts who waited for snail mail in the past. Phone calls were rare.
I beleive love can survive oceans of all kinds, but it is much sweeter to be together.
Light,
Nancy Haddock
I've always heard,distance makes the heart grow fonder.I honestly believe it's true.At least in my experience.Oceans don't always keep people apart.Distance can be hundreds of miles or just across town.
ReplyDeleteI have a special friend that lives just a couple of miles away that I don't get to see nearly often enough.Every once in awhile,I will send him a note to let him know how I am doing.When I do see him he talks my ear off.It's all about the quality of the time we spend together that counts not quantity.
No matter how far apart we are,we are forever in each other's hearts...
If distance breaks up a relationship in today's world of e-mail and cell phones, It wouldn't have lasted any way. It is just like any other aspect of being a couple or of being good friends. You either both work at it or you let
ReplyDeletetime and space come between you. It takes two decitated people to keep things going. .
if a relationship is strong and true, distance is only a state of mind...those who allow any distance, near or far, to destroy their relationship would have found any excuse to end it
ReplyDeleteyour insights help put much into perspective...merci!
Great insights, Andrei, as well as the comments. It reminded me of my son when he was in Iraq. He couldn't get to a phone very often, or email either, due to the bombings and his location. What I realized though, that during his absence I hung on to all the things I liked and loved about him. And I saw him as an adult, and not just my son. He became a hero in my eyes. I sometimes think that a little distance gives us a different perspective of those we love. And like you said, it will either cement the relationship, or it will just be a fond memory.
ReplyDeleteVery insightful. It is definitely the choices made by those involved in the relationship that determine whether or not it will work. Distance is just a convenient excuse.
ReplyDeleteTrue relationship is more than physical geography or thought process; it is held together by an invisible bond that is inseparable regardless of distance. These types of relationships are rare, but when found they are linked forever through mind, body, and soul. This is when a couple truly become "one"; however two distinct individuals.
ReplyDeleteIt makes no difference how many miles separate a couple. It only matters if you are unable to communicate. Talking on the phone or Internet daily is a must. Letter writing is great, but you can't always put the things you want to say in writing...in case of blackmail! LOL! Love isn't lost because of distance. It's lost because one or the other of the couple loses interest in holding onto the long distance relationship. Being separated by great distances can stress people who need a physical bond. (I advocate cyber sex between lovers who are separated by thousands of miles.) LOL!
ReplyDeletePS...I will always love you, Andrei...no matter how far apart we may be. Um, don't tell anyone I just said that. I don't want your lady to come and chop my nose off. :)
ReplyDeletePersonally distance doesn't make a difference if both people are not committed to a relationship. The space on the living room sofa can be just as deep and as wide of a chasm as an Ocean if either member of the relationship isn't interested in being an involved partner.
ReplyDeleteSo true, Andrei. We have control. And if things fall apart it's because one or both allowed it to fall apart. The ocean has nothing to do with it. But maybe when that happens its a good thing. Because if a relationship cannot stand being tested, better to find it out early than later when years have passed.
ReplyDeleteIn response to your question, I think relationships have become more "complicated."
ReplyDeleteIn part due to the fact that the demands of every day life are never-ending. Although, if you truly love someone--distance should never be a hindrance. Would thousands of miles apart ever change your love for a brother or sister? No. So if you are truly in love with a partner, you'll be commited while apart, until your circumstances bring you together.
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