Friday, February 13, 2009

Is cupid still alive?

So Valentine’s Day comes along and suddenly every couple is supposed to act like they’ve just been struck by love. As though nothing else matters anymore other that their partner.

You ask most women and they’ll tell you Valentine’s Day is special, but none will really give you a reason why. Men on the other hand will tell you it’s a day like any other and don’t see what all the fuss is about.

Saint Valentine was supposedly a priest who during the third century in Rome secretly performed marriages for young lovers in a time when it was prohibited by the Emperor. He was sentenced to death when these actions were later discovered.

So how are people interpreting this day? What has going out for a romantic dinner got to do with all this? 
Well here’s what I believe. Women generally put a lot more effort into relationships, and often have a hard time keeping that anticipation alive. Saint Valentine’s is a great day to revitalize what might have somewhat faded away throughout the previous months. So in a way it's almost as though the couple are discreetly renewing their vows.

Now although I personally don’t see why one should wait for February 14 to express some affection it’s a good day to assess what’s happening in the romance department. Therefore planning that romantic dinner or perhaps just some quality time is probably quite beneficial after all.


  1. actually why tell someone you love them only once a year, when you can say all the time?

  2. I'm not a big Valentine's Day person. I feel one day shouldn't be designated to show someone how much you care.

    But I do have to admit, you have an interesting point. Maybe Valentine's Day or Singles Awareness Day as I affectionately call it isn't so bad.

    Also, have to admit I got a chuckle out of the Cupid pic. lol

  3. Thanks for sending the blog read invite via facebook. Great articles!

    I'll be coming back to read more posts.

  4. As an old married woman, I've thought about this question many times. Why wait until February 14th???

    My husband is a soldier in the United States Army and is often deployed on the other side of the world when holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries roll around. Therefore, when he his home, we go on a weekly date. Yes, we make time every week for a date. A time when we aren't mom and dad, or author/photographer and soldier. We are just husband and wife.

    Now that doesn't mean that we always spend a lot of money. Many of these dates don't cost at all. (He is on a soldier's salery after all! LOL) Many times, one of us packs a couple of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, a couple of apples, and two bottles of water then we head to the park or we go for a walk along the hiking path in the woods near our house.

    It's all about making time for us and connecting as husband/wife and friends/lovers.

    Just a bit of my input! :)

    So on that note...Happy Valentine's Day everyone! May you have a lover's holdiay every week!


  5. LaBelleDameSansRegret429February 14, 2009 at 2:46 AM

    Valentine's Day is one of the biggest retail occasions of the year. Companies sell, sell, sell the idea that you need to buy and do pricey things to SHOW YOUR LOVE, DAMMIT.

    I'm of the opinion that every day should be a seduction of the senses (even if you're single!). It's an art form to be able to start turning on a man at 12 noon and not do the nasty until 2 AM. In real terms, though, this sort of puppy passion will fade to a more sustainable level after a while. That's not so bad; it means that love turns more real and solid.

    Since VD (ha!) is about the fantasy, companies love to discount the romance of the everyday - the guy who smooshes the huge spider, cooks some pasta with sauce for dinner, or cleans the snow off the windshield. Those little things are romance. Ahhh, but they don't sell diamonds, or fancy trips, now do they?

    Gratitude and enjoyment in the abundance of love's presence is what makes every day a romantic day.

    (Or, maybe I'm just a bitter Betty who hasn't received flowers for a bit (I suppose you'd need a guy for that). Bah. LOL.)

  6. I am one of the minority of women who don't get into Valentine's Day. If my honey wants to woo me with flowers and candlelight, any day will do. Don't choose a day that the media and society has brow-beaten you into thinking you have to "man up". Besides Romance is a 24/7 deal for me. Hugs and kisses in the morning with sweet words on how he's going to miss me while we're apart, more hugs and kisses when he gets home and being told how lucky he is to have me to come home to. And the best part? Knowing he really means it. That's romance. (and extreme good fortune).

    Great post Andrei!

  7. When I was a schoolgirl in England (many years ago), Valentines Day was much more exciting and fun... why? Valentines cards were always anonymous, from a secret admirer.

    In my opinion, aggressive commercialism ruins romance.

    How can it be romantic when there's such pressure on guys to give, and on girls to expect expensive gifts from the purveyors of pyjamas, diamonds, soft toys, flowers etc?

    Who needs all that, so soon after Christmas!

  8. Romance,what is that?Most guys just know how to do the wham bam than you maam stuff.They don't know anything about romance,on valentines day or any other day.They need to have classes where they can learn romance an the art of how to please a woman.I'm not trying to sound bitter.I just haven't found the right guy yet! If you know any,please send my way!ASAP!!

  9. Great insight, Andrei!
    Changing the daily routine is indeed a wonderful way to renew vows of love. My husband and I take full advantage of every holiday:)

  10. LaBelleDameSansRegret429February 16, 2009 at 5:49 PM

    By the way, that Cupid photo is full of win.

  11. I like the photo too. It made me chuckle. Then I wanted to know who shot Cupid? And in the back! There must be a story there. LOL

    Seriously though, holidays are what you make them. Valentines Day or any other.

    I've often wondered why every day couldn't be treated like a holiday because every day is a gift.

    And I agree with you that Valentines Day is a good time to assess what is going on in the relationship. But not the way the retailers want us to do it. It's always amazed me how the price of roses will jump during that week.

    Seems to me like roses on the 8th or the 16th would be just as romantic, or maybe more so as they would have happened without some promoting or some date on a calendar.